Compliments to shake late winter humdrum
With late winter still ahead, it’s time to look for something to enliven our days. A smile and kind words are surprisingly effective at interrupting monotony at home or work. So give a compliment, and watch the joy it brings.
The art of giving a compliment
A compliment can brighten a sad day, generate feelings of happiness, and make the recipient feel special and appreciated. To manifest so much positivity, develop your compliment-giving skills by keeping a few things in mind:
- Be genuine, honest, and sincere.
A compliment not based on truth may be perceived as such, and you’ll appear less credible. - Speak to specific actions, personality, or achievements.
Avoid comments on clothing or appearance such as, “I like your shoes.” Instead, find a noteworthy comment that indicates thought and attention: “You really made a great impression on the new in-laws with your thoughtful consideration of their dietary restrictions.” - Say it like you mean it.
Smile, make eye contact, and use a tone of voice that conveys the meaning of your words.
The art of receiving a compliment
A compliment is a gift. Accept it as one.
- Show appreciation for the compliment.
Smile and say, “Thank you.” - Demonstrate confidence with your acceptance.
Don’t belittle yourself in your response. Women are more prone to this than men, so beware! Say someone tells you, “Your perseverance really paid off. You landed the new client!” Don’t respond, “If I had worked a little harder, maybe it could have happened sooner.” Instead say, “I appreciate that you noticed. Thank you!” - Enjoy the gift.
Be aware of the positive feelings a compliment brings. Share those feelings with others through a compliment.
The ability to give and receive compliments is a social skill that demonstrates leadership. Leaders who develop the art of complimenting are better able to engage and motivate others.
Speaking, language, social, and leadership skills require attention and awareness to be developed and maintained. If you need assistance, we’re here to help. Contact us.
