| Your body should support your message— not compete with it. |
When I first prepared my comedy routine, I focused on the words—the jokes, the timing, and remembering what came next.
This week, as I practiced the set to perform it again, I tried something different.
I practiced in front of a full-length mirror and recorded myself. This time, I wasn’t just listening to my words. I watched my posture, facial expressions, and gestures.
What a difference.
When my body supported the words, the jokes had more meaning, the audience was more engaged—and yes, I got more laughs and applause.
It reminded me of something I coach all the time:
Secret #17: Your body should support your message—not compete with it.
You don’t have to be performing comedy for this to matter. It happens in meetings, presentations, video calls, and everyday conversations.
Here are five ways to strengthen your presence:
• Plant your feet. A grounded stance reduces distracting movement and supports a steady presence.
• Let your hands be seen. Use natural gestures that support your words rather than trying to manufacture gestures.
• Open your posture. Relax your shoulders and avoid making yourself unnecessarily small.
• Connect with your eyes. Think connection—not staring. Let your eye contact show people you’re speaking with them, not simply at them.
• Own your space. Stand or sit at your full height. You don’t need to shrink—or perform—to project confidence.
👉 Your action step: Record yourself speaking for 60 seconds. Then watch it back with the sound off.
What do you notice about your posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye contact?
What does your body communicate?
That awareness is your starting point.
Your body is always speaking. Make sure it supports the message you want people to hear.
👉Ready to communicate with greater confidence, presence, and impact?
Let’s talk about your communication goals and where focused coaching can make a difference.
Smiles,
Anne Marie
Be Confident. Be Heard.
Blending science, mindfulness and joy for confident communication.
